A woman has been urged to dump her boyfriend after he let his friends to go through his phone while drunk, potentially allowing them to see the X-rated photos she had sent him.
The anonymous British woman took to Mumsnet to ask for advice on how to deal with the situation.
She explained that her boyfriend of 10 months had been at a party when he text her and said: ‘I kissed a girl tonight x’.
When she challenged him, he said his friends had taken his phone and sent her the message as a prank.
A woman has been left disgusted by her boyfriend’s behaviour after he got drunk at a party, kissed another girl and let friends on his phone, able to see her explicit pictures (file photo)
The anonymous woman from the UK took to the ‘Am I Being Unreasonable?’ thread on the forum website to see if other women could help her decide how to deal with her boyfriend
She continued: ‘That’s not what I’m p****d about. I’m p****d he has my revealing pics/images (ones you expect between gf and bf) and explicit saved messages.
‘These are really easy to find on his phone (think Snapchat) and I’m so very upset these could of been exposed or seen by other people. I trusted him and he stupidly let others on his phone.’
The woman explained that her boyfriend didn’t understand why she was upset.
She said that her boyfriend is ‘genuinely such a good person’ but feared she wouldn’t be able to see past this behaviour.
The woman added: ‘Am I being unreasonable to be upset with him? I supposed it could be my fault for sending such things but I’m hurt he was so careless. There’s sick f***s in this world and the phone might of been passed around or videos taken. Maybe I’m just overthinking this. Advice welcome.’
Many users said she should break up with her boyfriend after deleting all of the photos and videos from his phone. Others noted it seemed likely that he had kissed someone else.
The community was unforgiving to both the boyfriend and the woman, who many argued it was not ‘expected’ nor ‘normal’ to send explicit photos of yourself
Others blamed the woman, saying she shouldn’t have sent him X-rated content in the first place.
One said: ‘See him and delete all the photos of you from his phone (if that’s something you worry about), then dump him.
‘And, in future, I would advise that you not send revealing photos of yourself to anyone. Or, if you feel you must send them for some reason, make sure they don’t include your face.’
Another user said that these photos shouldn’t even be sent to someone you’re married to, considering the risks it holds: ‘I’m so sorry. But these are not ‘images you’d expect’ to share for this exact reason.
‘You haven’t even known this guy a year. It’s silly to send stuff like this even if you were married tbh. You just don’t know who can get hold of these images. He is an a******e. You must be so hurt.
‘As PP [previous posters] said arrange to see him then make sure you delete all of these images (also from deleted items and cloud) just as damage limitation. But he may well gave already sent them to others or stored them elsewhere.
‘Then dump him and block him and move on. What an utter b*****d and it sounds like his friends are equally obnoxious, you will be well rid.’
Another user added: ‘The trust will be gone now and every time he goes off with these mates you will worry. Cut your losses and as above, remove all images from his device that involve you exposing yourself.’
The woman was urged to break up with her boyfriend once she had deleted all of the evidence
Most respondents said they didn’t believe his argument that he wasn’t the one to send the message to the upset girlfriend.
‘He sounds cruel,’ said one user. ‘I don’t believe him that he didn’t send the message.
‘I think he sent it to hurt you. The admiring other women in front of you is also hurtful. This guy takes pleasure in hurting your feelings. See him, delete the photos, then get rid! He’s lousy.’
Someone else reiterated the dangers of sending naked pictures of yourself to someone, no matter how trustworthy you consider them to be: ‘Howay OP [original poster], he sent the message when he was pissed hoping for a reaction from you.
‘He’s obviously thought better of it once he’d sobered up. Whether he did actually kiss someone is irrelevant really – his text was to hurt you, whether it was true or not. I’d dump him for the old ‘my mate sent it’ excuse alone’.
‘Please though, don’t send identifiable pics to anyone, no matter how nice you think they are – it’s not worth the stress if you split.’
